Real Women Cook

Since when is frozen foods and take out better than home cooked meals? I recently went to a gathering and was asked how often I cook, I gave my response shamefully (thinking it was not enough) “Three to four times a week.” I said,  the person responded “Oh man! 3-4 times? man thats crazy, you must get so tired!” with this look of pity.

If this sort of response was coming from an unmarried or even NEWLY married girl then I would completely understand.

I have to admit for the longest time I fought the housewife title, I refused to give in to the everyday chores and fall into the trap of cooking every day (not to mention I sucked at it!). Alhumdulilah I grew out of that thinking and became mature. The only people to look down upon housewives are women themselves.   I think our generation of ladies don’t want to end up as a typical housewife.  Many of us may think our mothers had it hard or hated what they did.

I used to think cooking was a chore for my mother, but I’ve realized she truly enjoys it.  Through her food she expresses her creativity, passion and love.  When we were sick she made the best soup, when we were leaving for a trip she made her famous pulao, each event or situation was linked with her food item.  There was no skipping or taking the easy way out for them, they wanted their meals to be absolutely p.e.r.f.e.c.t.

After marriage I have gained a whole new appreciation for good food, cooking is indeed an art.  I underestimated the effort put into it,  behind good food is a talented woman.

Don’t get me wrong, I work part-time, but working woman or not, a mother/wife is a homemaker.  Allah SWT has blessed women with the ability to provide warmth, love and comfort. Think back to what made your parents’ home? I think of laughter, joy, TLC and and and….FOOD! Till this day I get excited when I go to my mom’s house because I’m so eager to eat her food. It’s a whole other story how I always end up gaining weight when I’m in Maika (mom’s house).

Sadly, these days homes are missing the food aspect.  I don’t believe tv dinners, frozen foods and eating out can ever replace what our mothers did for us.

It’s not about your class or education, it just a natural thing to do. I recently came across a Pakistani person who said “My mom is a working woman so when we go home we have to figure out our own dinner and fend for ourselves.” I thought that was so depressing. The lack of dinner isn’t just about not having food, it just gives a home an empty feeling.

My aunt is a doctor and is working insane hours, however every weekend she cooks about 5-6 dishes to last her a week. In my book she is a super woman; She knows her children depend on her for a good meal. Anyone can pop in a microwave meal or whip up a sandwich, but it takes a real woman to cook up a meal for her family.

For women who really find it difficult to squeeze out time for cooking, do it on the weekends. Have your husband help and make it into a bonding activity.  If your husband is cooking, I would give him a ton of compliments so it encourages him to do it again!

The dinner table isn’t just a place for food but it is a time for bonding, discussion and crucial family time.  Days are discussed, problems are solved and of course food critiquing is done.
Don’t feel discouraged if a meal or two…or a dozen go wrong, practice makes perfect! (although I feel like I’m stuck in the practicing phase!)

Ladies whether it be once a week or every day, we should uphold that tradition of cooking. It isn’t hurting our feminism, it isn’t degrading, its an art our mothers have mastered and we should too!

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7 thoughts on “Real Women Cook

  1. Preach it woman! I know a little something about cooking ..everyday! The whole shebang. Dal chawal Salan sabzi. Somedays I wish I could get a break. alhumdulillah I’m not alone, we (mil and I) cook together. So its easier on both of us. I feel great about the environment it creates for my kids. Its a blessing to have a home cooked meal everyday. I was just asking Hasan which is his favorite room in the house and he said the kitchen…if I’m not having a good day I try to remember that it’s not just the dishes we create, its the memories we are making for our kids that will last long after the food is digested inshAllah. Happy cooking! What’s on the menu tonight?

    Chicken soup coz everyone’s kinda feeling run down :/

  2. Hey I can completely understand and relate
    To your post, I also fought the housewife title but now have come to terms with and enjoy experimenting in the kitchen. Home cooked meals are healthier and will leave an everlasting impression on our families, involve everyone in the cooking process I always ask my kids to taste whatever I’m making and give me feedback, when they were younger I would give them their own pots and spoons to pretend cook alongside me!

  3. Totally agree…although I don’t cook EVERY day, feels good when I do, like I accomplished something lol. And like you, I also feel like I’m stuck in the practice phase! IA we’ll get to our mothers’ perfection on day!

  4. Well said! I love going to my mom’s house because I know she cooks with such love. I tell her that her food tastes better because she cooks with so much passion and love.

    Before I had my daughter, many would tell me that I have time to cook because I chose to be a stay-at-home wife. I would tell them that I am passionate about food and I make time for it. Otherwise we can all go on in life being busy with something or another. Anyway, with an infant, time is always short, but making time for raising a healthy family is a priority. It beats eating out any day.

  5. This article is too rough on women who don’t cook, some women are balancing school-work- and kids and the last thing they want to do on the weekends is cook! If they have husband who understand, and children who are young enough to find their nutrition from other healthy sources aside from home cooked food, then whats the problem?

    And even in the case if I do have time to cook, if my husband is chill and is ok with paninis shouldn’t I do sajdah shukr and be thankful to Allah SWT?

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