60 Miles for Cheesecake

The hubby (and from this point on will always be known as ‘the chief’) announced that Friday evening will be date night.  After much contemplation we decided to go to Cheesecake Factory.We dropped Eesa off at my mother’s and by the time we reached CCF it was 9:30 PM.  I was so tired and was willing to skip CCF to go to bed.  My My, 9:30…only 9:30 on a Friday night, the night was young yet I felt old and ready to pass out. All of a sudden I had a blast from the past.

I thought back 5 years ago when a couple of friends and I had the sudden urge and craving for cheese cake. The closest one was 60 miles away. It was already 9:30 PM, did we want to drive an hour plus just for cheese cake?

HECK YA, the night was young and so were we. We reached CCF 15 minutes before it closed. I grabbed a slice of original cheesecake with whipped cream and strawberries on the side. We drove back home (without eating anything at CCF) and then popped the movie ‘Wicker Park’ while we savored our cheese cake.

The movie ended at 3 AM and there was no point of going to bed when Fajr was just a few hours away, thus we partied the night away (the halal way of course duh!).

So what’s the point of this post? Well its rather interesting how a person goes through many phases in their life.  Whether it be fashion, hobbies, habits or adventures, we all go through these changes.

What causes these phases? Maturity level? Life and the circumstances surrounding it? People? Experiences?

Perhaps a little bit of everything.  Each phase of your life has its own sweetness (and bitterness).  Now my idea of sweet is to take a two hour nap on any given Sunday.  The amount of relaxation, energy and power a nap gives me is indescribable. As a matter of fact just thinking about it puts a smile on my face.

I wouldn’t say these changes are for better or for worse, it is just a natural transition that a human being adapts to throughout their lives.

It is very similar to fashion I suppose. When bell-bottoms were in style, they were the coolest things around, now they look so ugly.  Remember short kameez were the Pakistani fashion? Now they look hideous!

I guess same rule applies for Deen, with coming days we should consistently strengthen our relationship with Allah SWT.  Although our eman may encounter highs and lows, but we should always make a conscious effort in making it stronger.

For example, I used to argue a lot (the chief might think I still do) but I came across this hadith

“Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever does not argue when he is in the wrong will have a home built for him on the edge of Paradise. Whoever avoids it when he in the right will have a home built for him in the middle of Paradise. And whoever improves his own character, a home will be built for him in the highest part of Paradise.” [Tirmidhi]

If not arguing means a home built in Paradise, then so be it insha’Allah! Similarly, I hope I can make other changes that can benefit me in the hereafter insha’Allah ta’Allah.

So would I drive an hour to CCF now? HECK NO! I wouldn’t even drive 10 minutes, actually I don’t even like their cheese cake anymore, haven’t had it in years.

I can still party the night away, but only after my two hour nap.

Something to take a look back about…

2 thoughts on “60 Miles for Cheesecake

  1. hehehe you’re right about how things change…remember that one bridal shower where the party ended early and we were all wondering what happened to the days where we would party together all night (the halal way, of course, as you said :D)? SubhanAllah…khair may Allah (swt) bless our friendships and families and let us cherish the moments regardless of the amount of time that we are together. Ameen. Sorry…I’m feeling sentimental today haha!

  2. Soo true abeer. Life is so different before marriage, after marriage and then after kids. I used to laugh at my sisters when they wanted to go to bed early after they had kids…but now I feel the same. Driving that far or cheesecake is crazy now, but back then it’s about the act of doing it and having fun along the way with friends.

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